when is divorce "ok" ?

[kokokolo]

someone I know is going through a tough time in their marriage, and their spouse pretty much treats them like crap.
Also she found out her husband has been cheating on her and doesnt seem to be sorry about it.


I personally feel like I want to tell her that she should get a divorce if her husband does not apologize and is really really sorry. But I dont wanna say something I will regret, so I wanted to know what you have to say about it. And by "you" I mean the bible ! /forum/images/graemlins/blush.gif

I mean whats worse than getting a divorce? Being married to someone that does not love you, right?

I know this has been touched on in bible studies but I couldnt find what I was looking for . I apologize.

[kprzCreation]

If he has indeed committed adultery with another woman, then she is fully within your right as a Christian to divorce him and remarry if she chooses.

(Matt. 19:9)
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery."

[jeffrobodean]

I think she is within her "Christian Rights" to get a divorce because of adultry.
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The controversy over whether divorce and remarriage is allowed according to the Bible revolves primarily around Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. The phrase “except for marital unfaithfulness” is the only thing in Scripture that possibly gives God’s permission for divorce and remarriage. Many interpreters understand this "exception clause" as referring to "marital unfaithfulness" during the "betrothal" period. In Jewish custom, a man and a woman were considered married even while they were still engaged “betrothed.” Immorality during this "betrothal" period would then be the only valid reason for a divorce.


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In my experiences once a cheater, always a cheater. That may not always be the case, but in every case that I've seen, the person who has comitted adultry has done it again and again and again. It really depends upon the two people involved and it is a very personal issue between the two of them.

[Anthony Lapham]

Do you want a whole page or so because i studied this for a whole week in school...

[kokokolo]

is there really that much on it? I figured just a couple verses was good enough...

I seem to recall some verse about how you forgive the unfaithfull spouse if they ask forgiveness with a contrite heart. Then again maybe that was refering to something else.