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[littleamazon]

The 20 Rules of Dating for Grown-Ups

We've had to learn them the hard way -- and some of them, we're still learning.
By Nancy Hass

Rules to Date By

1. That dashing sport who pursues you with wild romantic gestures has probably pursued other women with those same gestures in the past -- and will probably do so in the future, perhaps even while he's using them on you.

2. When a man tells you he wants a woman who has "her own interests," that means he wants you not to complain when he golfs twice a week.

3. The little tics of his that bother you at the beginning either become instantly unimportant once you fall in love -- or bug you more each day until you want to blow your brains out.

4. It's not always better to start off a relationship with super sex: The hotter it is at the beginning, the more disappointing the inevitable leveling-off.

5. How much he makes you laugh is more important than how much he makes -- or even how much he makes you happy in bed.

6. Personal hygiene is very, very important.

7. The two questions you should ask early in a relationship are, "How young a woman would you date if you could?" and, "Would you choose a woman with breast implants over a woman with small breasts all her own?"

8. If a man tells you he "loves really smart women," check out how he reacts when it's you all the people at the dinner party are listening to raptly.

9. The most romantic words a man can say are, "I can't wait to hear what you think about this."

10. The most romantic words a woman can say are, "Just lie back and relax."

11. Sex on a beach only sounds romantic; the older you get, the more sand doesn't mix with your anatomy.

12. Just because a man is making passionate love to you every night doesn't mean he isn't cheating on you.

13. The man you thought was "too nice" to date in your 20s will look shockingly good at your college reunion.

14. "Bad boys" turn into bad men with drug and alcohol problems.

15. A man who is over 40 and says he "just hasn't found the right woman yet" isn't ever going to find that woman.

16. The eternal relationship dilemma is not "Do you love me?" but "How much togetherness is too much -- or not enough?"

17. If you fall in love with a divorced man whose marriage was terrible, you'll always look better by comparison.

18. Even the most resentful stepchildren eventually grow up and move out.

19. Being single is preferable to being lonely in a relationship.

20. Other couples' relationships, which may look enviously romantic from the outside, are, behind closed doors, probably just as screwed up as yours.

[Kyra1991]

Awesome Post Little A!! This is my favorite!

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19. Being single is preferable to being lonely in a relationship.

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Awesome Post Little A!! This is my favorite!

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19. Being single is preferable to being lonely in a relationship.

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but oh so hard to take

[KrYptic.x]

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14. "Bad boys" turn into bad men with drug and alcohol problems.

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The person who wrote this must be over the age of 23 or 24 to have realized this. /forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif

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15. A man who is over 40 and says he "just hasn't found the right woman yet" isn't ever going to find that woman.

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The countdown is on...18 years until all hope is lost ^_^

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19. Being single is preferable to being lonely in a relationship.

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I, much like Kyra, must concur.

[Kyra1991]

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Awesome Post Little A!! This is my favorite!

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19. Being single is preferable to being lonely in a relationship.

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but oh so hard to take

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I just don't want to waste my time in a so so, ok or terrible relationship, when I can be out there looking for a fabulous reltionship!!!

[littleamazon]

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Awesome Post Little A!! This is my favorite!

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19. Being single is preferable to being lonely in a relationship.

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I just don't want to waste my time in a so so, ok or terrible relationship, when I can be out there looking for a fabulous reltionship!!!

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I think that "looking too hard" could be a problem too..I want to think that in the mids of having a life and working towards who I want to become, a fabulous relationship will "find" me. It will be natural, not forced and it will flow. I know, because I have been there and it is the most wonderful feeling!

Amazon

PS- I must probably add that if a man doesn't like being bitten...he should not apply for a position as "Amazon's man" LOL. /forum/images/graemlins/blush.gif

[rev]

That's a pretty good list.

I do disagree *somewhat* with the thought that good relationships will find you. I think that it's a combination of serendipity and being able to sieze the situation. If you wait for the other person to initiate then the opportunity will most likely pass you by. Carpe Diem is very cliche, but appropriate in this context.

People always ask where the best place is to meet men/women when it's the exact opposite of where they've been looking. You'll (generally) meet better people in random places than you will at bars, clubs, school, work, etc. Dating those who you work with or have class with is a result of attraction by proximity and can make for a very messy and awkward breakup if things should go downhill.

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I LOVE a girl who can carry a group conversation. I feel like I always have to be the funny guy who keeps the conversation rolling. It's nice when a girl can take control of the group and let me relax for awhile. I really do love it when a girl can talk about more than just superficial things, that gets old really quick. I don't mind fluff talk in the initial meeting though, but it's more of how someone says something than what they're actually saying.

[littleamazon]

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I do disagree *somewhat* with the thought that good relationships will find you. I think that it's a combination of serendipity and being able to sieze the situation. If you wait for the other person to initiate then the opportunity will most likely pass you by. Carpe Diem is very cliche, but appropriate in this context.


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I actually understand your point..my main approach here was..that there is a level of unpredictability of when and how you will meet this person. You must be open to the possibility, take your chances but it should be like many other things in life...it has a priority and a place but being with someone doesn't become the main reason for your existance.

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[noodlejr]

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but being with someone doesn't become the main reason for your existance.

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it's a shame that many people become so attached to the idea that they have to be dating or in a relationship with someone AT ALL TIMES. it's like jumping from one rebound relationship to another. what a vicious cycle. i definitely have a couple of friends that fall into this category, and unfortunately, some relationships i am referring to were marriages......

[KrYptic.x]

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but being with someone doesn't become the main reason for your existance.

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it's a shame that many people become so attached to the idea that they have to be dating or in a relationship with someone AT ALL TIMES. it's like jumping from one rebound relationship to another. what a vicious cycle. i definitely have a couple of friends that fall into this category, and unfortunately, some relationships i am referring to were marriages......

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I can never understand this either. I have one friend who thinks he is some sort of failure b/c he doesn't have a gf and can't get laid. It's sad.

Unless you are happy with yourself, you will not be happy in a relationship.

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[littleamazon]

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but being with someone doesn't become the main reason for your existance.

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it's a shame that many people become so attached to the idea that they have to be dating or in a relationship with someone AT ALL TIMES. it's like jumping from one rebound relationship to another. what a vicious cycle. i definitely have a couple of friends that fall into this category, and unfortunately, some relationships i am referring to were marriages......

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I can never understand this either. I have one friend who thinks he is some sort of failure b/c he doesn't have a gf and can't get laid. It's sad.

Unless you are happy with yourself, you will not be happy in a relationship.

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Leave it up to Kryptic to come up with this! LOL

Everything comes from within. You can't ask in a partner for traits you don't possess. This makes everything more complicated...because you want quality over quantity and let's face it..there is a lot of beautiful people out there that are just not at that level of thinking...They don't even know who they are/what they want/where they are going. They haven't had the guts to say: This is me/These are my limitations/These are my strengths. They are still pretending to be somebody else.

Not a lot of people in today's society have the power of introspection. Nobody is perfect but if you don't know yourself, how will you know what you want/need?

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[Ultra Man]

i think we all need to go on dr. phil to have our issues sorted out /forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif

[Qester]

I think i should write some of these down into my memory :P

[KrYptic.x]

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but being with someone doesn't become the main reason for your existance.

Amazon

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it's a shame that many people become so attached to the idea that they have to be dating or in a relationship with someone AT ALL TIMES. it's like jumping from one rebound relationship to another. what a vicious cycle. i definitely have a couple of friends that fall into this category, and unfortunately, some relationships i am referring to were marriages......

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I can never understand this either. I have one friend who thinks he is some sort of failure b/c he doesn't have a gf and can't get laid. It's sad.

Unless you are happy with yourself, you will not be happy in a relationship.

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Leave it up to Kryptic to come up with this! LOL

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Everything comes from within. You can't ask in a partner for traits you don't possess. This makes everything more complicated...because you want quality over quantity and let's face it..there is a lot of beautiful people out there that are just not at that level of thinking...They don't even know who they are/what they want/where they are going. They haven't had the guts to say: This is me/These are my limitations/These are my strengths. They are still pretending to be somebody else.

Not a lot of people in today's society have the power of introspection. Nobody is perfect but if you don't know yourself, how will you know what you want/need?

Amazon

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Careful ... C is one her soap box /forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif /forum/images/graemlins/wink.gif

[littleamazon]

Ok, I get down the soap box and put my nose back into the books! LOL /forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif

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Amazon

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[KrYptic.x]

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Also, something that is very important but most overlook - KNOW WHAT YOU WANT!! /forum/images/graemlins/crazy.gif

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You have no idea who true this statement is right now...

[sta63bmx]

Pabst Blue Ribbon beer and a large thick crust Monical's 'roni pizza, that's what I want. And I want to be eating it while I'm watching the rest of my Family Guy DVD's.

If we go on Dr. Phil, you guys distract him while I write "I EAT POO" on his back in white paint. That will be fun.

[Ultra Man]

yeah, or write "Turd Burgaler"